The ÷ between “I want to…” & “I have to…”
I really don’t know if this happens in the world of men, but I do know this happens constantly in the world of women.
Where does this begins, I don’t know… but what I can tell is that it has been in humanity for centuries. It is just a matter of reading the history of women and checking around our mothers and grandmothers. Our cultural and educational backpack is a heavy rock to carry. Through history it seems we have just tacitly accepted the “musts” of a woman leaving no space to the creativity and freewill choice.
Do you think you are “responsible”? Often, I hear from women—I include myself in the bunch—“I will love to do this or that…”, then when they are asked: “why don’t you do it, then?” ….
The answer is: “Oh! I can’t because … I am a wife, I am a mother, I am a single parent or simply I am not allowed (culture/religion).”
We have accepted that “being responsible” is following a bunch of “have to…” that we don’t want, or perhaps we haven’t chosen.
“Being responsible” is about choosing from the heart. For centuries, it has been forgotten the power of choice. We have the absolute discretion to believe what we want to believe; therefore, we are responsible for our own thoughts. We are responsible to remove any thoughts of our head that does not contribute to what we want to do. We are responsible to remove any limited believes that does not align with our heart. We are responsible for creating our own life experiences and so, we are responsible for managing our own energy towards what we want. We are responsible for being happy, we are responsible for our own happiness. We are responsible to believe whatever it contributes to our happiness. Are you responsible? Then choose to believe, think and do want makes you entirely happy, instead of what you “have to.”
A bill is only worthy, when it is not broken, Eh! This is the bottom line, if we keep dividing ourselves in half, between “we want to…” and “we have to…”, we lose power that rebounds in losing self-trust, that rebounds in losing self-love.
When self-love is absent, it is very hard to connect with the heart (what we want).
Things works better in the perfection of its unity rather than in a broken state. When it is aligned the beliefs, thoughts and acts with the heart (place where you find what you want) the joy of being brings the value of unity within, and ultimately inner peace.
An internal division is an internal conflict. Holding to something is more destructive than letting go.
It is easier to fly without a rock, heavier than ourselves, attached to our back. Setting your minds free of attachments is an act of choice, and ultimately it is an act of self-love!